Dad Of Five Shares His Refreshing ‘Rules’ For Dating His Daughter

Dads are notorious for being overprotective of their daughters. It’s certainly meant well, but it does reinforce the idea that women are incapable of making good decisions for themselves and therefore need a man to step in and save the day. Thankfully, writer J. Warren Welch seems to have a more refreshing point of view when it comes to his daughters’ dating lives, and he’s gone viral because of it.

Welch, who has five daughters, posted his “rules” the girls’ potential suitors would need to follow on his Instagram page back in September 2017, but the post has only recently started going viral on Facebook for how refreshingly different it is from the norm.


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“You’ll have to ask them what their rules are. I’m not raising my little girls to be the kind of women who need their daddy to act like a creepy, possessive bada*s in order for them to be treated with respect,” he wrote. “You will respect them, and if you don’t, I promise they won’t need my help putting you back in your place. Good luck pumpkin.”

Talking to TODAY Parents, Welch revealed that he was inspired to create the post after becoming exhausted by the “posturing” of other dads who seemed to think they had the responsibility and the right to make decisions in their daughters’ dating lives.

“I understand the urge to protect your daughters. I get that. But the kind of posturing by fathers of daughters I was specifically responding to had nothing to do with that ‘protective instinct’ and everything to do with asserting their dominance over women and reinforcing a belief that women need men to take care of them,” Welch explained.

He added that he learns from his daughters just as much as they learn from him. One thing’s for sure, they’re very lucky to have a dad who cares enough about them to trust them to make their own decisions.