A grim fact about our society is that is a woman is assaulted, by someone she knows or a stranger, people will want to know all the extenuating details, no matter how irrelevant they are. For example, what are they wearing? Clothing choices are still seen as an excuse by some to commit a violent assault on another person. It’s sick, misogynistic logic, but it persists.
Sometimes it seems like we’ve run out ways to explain why saying someone’s clothes invited sexual assault is wrong.
Frankly, if you believe that, you might be beyond help. But 22-year-old Bree Wiseman posted a photo to Facebook that does at least present the idea in a new way. The picture shows her sweet doggo sitting next to a plate of food, like a good boy.
To the people that say women get raped due to the way they are dressed. This is my dog. His favorite food is steak. He is eye level with my plate. He won’t get any closer because I told him no. If a dog is better behaved than you are, you need to reevaluate your life. Feel free to share, my dog is adorable.
He is! Look:
To the people that say women get raped due to the way they are dressed. This is my dog. His favorite food is steak. He...Posted by Bree Wiseman on Wednesday, July 19, 2017
Wiseman’s photo went viral very quickly, partly because of the cute dog and partly because it’s so true. A dog knows what “no” means, so why wouldn’t a person? Huffpost interviewed Wiseman, who expanded on her dog and steak thesis.
“If a 4-year-old pit bull understands the word ‘no,’ even though he is looking at something he wants so bad he is literally drooling, then adults should understand ‘no,’ no matter how the other adult is dressed,” she said.
“Appearances shouldn’t make any difference in sexual assault cases. How is it that a simple-minded animal has the ability to understand better than a large part of the adult population?”
Wiseman is being a little facetious. Humans are certainly more complicated than dogs, but she is very clear on the fact that talking about what a woman was wearing when she was assaulted is a way to shift blame away from the person who committed the crime.
“The only person to blame in a rape offense is the rapist,” she continued. “It was their decision to rape. People shouldn’t have to worry about what they chose to wear for fear of rape. I want people to see that this is a problem, and to stand together against victim-shaming.”
And as an added bonus, everyone can see that pits are actually a wonderful, loving breed.