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Viral Tweet About Checking On Someone’s Headspace Before Breaking Bad News Gets The Meme Treatment

There’s a lot of discussion right now about how to create appropriate boundaries in relationships and what it means to do “emotional labor” for someone. A few weeks ago, one Twitter thread about telling a friend in need you’re “at capacity” went viral.

Twitter user @YanaBirt went viral after sharing a screenshot of a text they seem to have sent to someone asking, “Are you in the right headspace to receive information that could possibly hurt you?”

They captioned it, “I just want to say, a lot of y’all dump information on your friends at the wrong time without their consent. If you know it’s something that could hurt them, ask permission before you decide to be messy. Please.”

While it’s nice to check on how someone is doing mentally before giving them more stressful info, a lot of people thought that this way of introducing the topic was totally wrong.

Most people responded by saying that if someone texted them that they had info that could “possibly hurt” them, they wouldn’t be able to think about much else!

Few people would be able to say, “No thanks, I can’t take any bad news right now!” and then go about peacefully with their life. It would definitely cause anxiety and stress.

But the phrase has caught on, as people mock, dissect, and joke about the concept:

There has been some pushback from people who feel that those who are mocking the “headspace” tweet are mocking people on the spectrum, who might need to communicate more clearly and directly about emotional needs:

But others have said it’s not the idea of communicating about emotional consent and checking in, it’s the absurdity of the text’s phrasing that people are mocking:

In conclusion: asking how your friends are doing is good. Texting them a dire warning of terrible news to come is bad. Everyone is in a terrible headspace on Twitter.