Miley Cyrus unleashed a whole lot of WTF during a recent Instagram live video with boyfriend Cody Simpson. The controversial singer, who has been a vocal supporter of the LGBTQ community, made a series of upsetting statements about feminism and sexuality in general that did not sit well with fans.
“Guys, I was being a little too, like…hard-core feminist vibes and, just like, I don’t know, not allowing anyone in, but now I am,” Cyrus said.
“There are good men out there, guys. Don’t give up. You don’t have to be gay. There are good people with dicks out there. You just gotta find them. You gotta find a dick that’s not a dick, you know what I mean?”
“Don’t give up, you don’t have to be gay, there are good dicks out there, you just have to find them”
“I always thought I had to be gay because all guys are evil but that’s not true”
— • (@bljcmie) October 21, 2019
I don’t know what you mean, Miley! That’s not how any of this works!
You don’t need to be a gender theory scholar to understand that feminism is not about man-hating or being a lesbian to own the men. And saying “you don’t have to be gay” pretty much flaunts in the face of science as well as the queer community’s lived experience. It’s unkind to say. It’s wrong. It’s harmful.
Like a lot of folks, Cyrus’ conception of her own sexuality has shifted and evolved over time. She says she realized she was pansexual when she was 14. She has had high profile relationships with both men and women, including a long-term relationship and brief marriage with Liam Hemsworth.
“My whole life, I didn’t understand my own gender and my own sexuality. I always hated the word bisexual because that’s even putting me in a box. I don’t ever think about someone being a boy or someone being a girl, Cyrus told Variety in October 2016.
“What I preach is: People fall in love with people, not gender, not looks, not whatever,” she explained to Vanity Fair in February this year.
So, what happened? No one seems to know what caused Cyrus to make these comments, but a lot of folks are pretty mad at Cyrus’ irresponsibility.
“Is @MileyCyrus actually stupid? Cause this is a stupid message, from a stupid person, to idiots who think they ‘have to’ become gay because a gender disappoints them. That’s a stupid narrative encouraging the illusion that it’s a choice,” said one Twitter user.
Is @MileyCyrus actually stupid?
Cause this is a stupid message, from a stupid person, to idiots who think they "have to" become gay because a gender disappoints them. That's a stupid narrative encouraging the illusion that it's a choice and a flimsy button. Are you mad? https://t.co/FID5CAAJHw
— KodySage (@KodySage) October 21, 2019
hey uhhhhh @MileyCyrus nice take you got on being gay there but if you could go ahead and NOT perpetrate the idea that all a lesbian needs is a good dick to make her straight, that'd be GREAT
— ?♀️Kween Death?♀️ (@KweenDeath) October 21, 2019
Backlash warranted. Women aren't gay because all guys are dicks. They're gay because they quite simply like women.
— Hannah (@hmarie12) October 21, 2019
How can she say that like her sexuality is like what she is choosing for dinner? Totally downplays people’s struggles with intetnal and external acceptance and understanding.
— Katie Ann (@Katydid888) October 21, 2019
Miley, this is so not it. Women don’t “have to be gay” because they “can’t find a good person with a d*ck”.
Don’t use the queer community as a stop-gap because you couldn’t find a boyfriend.
People aren’t queer because they “gave up” on men.
This is so insulting. pic.twitter.com/lAzcEjHRcB
— Rosie Percy (@rosiepercy) October 21, 2019
no sentence has ever angered me more than “don’t give up, you don’t have to be gay, there are good dicks out there, you just have to find them” … like WHO the fuck says that?’ ??? never been more disappointed in miley cyrus.
— lucy not vives (@maialycia) October 21, 2019
Folks on Twitter also noted that Cyrus used transphobic language in her video.
“Not all ‘guys’ have dicks, Miley. Thought you knew better,” said one Twitter user.
Damn. In 30 seconds @MileyCyrus managed to burn up all goodwill she'd ever built with queer and trans people.
Not all "guys" have dicks, Miley. Thought you knew better.
You "had to be gay" because men are bad? Do you not realize what an anti-lesbian trope that is?
— James Bradford's Undead Corpse (@jamesebradford) October 21, 2019
So Miley Cyrus said: “There are good men out there guys, don’t give up. You don’t have to be gay, there are good people with d**ks out there, you’ve just got to find them."
So here we've got lesbophobia AND transmisogyny!
Stop making excuses for her obvious bigotry.
— Valkyrie Thunderbitch (@ValkyrieLadyK) October 21, 2019
Everyone’s journey to understanding their own sexuality is different. And while Miley has made and continues to make her journey in the public sphere, not everyone has the privilege to be so glib about their sexuality and gender identity. There are real consequences for the queer community just for being open, and Cyrus needs to examine why comments like this are harmful.