In an undoubtedly awesome parenting move, a mother named Haley Hassell posted a Facebook rant about her kid’s tantrum—and the beautiful way she dealt with it.
Her daughter, Presleigh, wanted a super special VIP pencil box (are pencil boxes that cool these days?) so badly, so Haley went out to three stores to get it for her. When she got home, she presented the amazing pencil box (still a funny concept), which her daughter suddenly couldn’t be bothered with and threw in the trash. Harsh!
Instead of acquiescing to her kid’s demands for a new, even cooler pencil box, she decided to teach her daughter a valuable and beautiful “tough love” lesson about gratitude and generosity:
Hassell explained how she went to three different stores to find Presleigh the pencil box she wanted, only to have her daughter say she doesn’t want it anymore.
Presleigh learned a tough love lesson today… I went to 3 different stores to get that LOL pencil box you see in the trash there. When I surprised her with it this afternoon (just knowing she would be ecstatic) she stared at it and threw it in the trash and slammed the bedroom door. She yelled “that’s stupid, everyone in my class has that..I don’t want it anymore!” 🛑🤯🤔..WHHHHAT STOP COME AGAIN?
She explains how angry her daughter’s ungrateful attitude made her. So she gave her a new “pencil box”: a Ziploc bag.
OK So by this time there was Probably smoke coming out of my ears and I’m trying real hard not to completely lose it on this kid that I have worked so hard to completely take care of financially on my own & make sure she always gets what she needs and then some. BUT I thought I had always taught her to be grateful & know how lucky she was but apparently sis needed a small wake up call!! SO before completely going Madea mad on my child I check myself and say, “okay that’s fine, let me go get the one you’re going to use”…came back with her new pencil box, which is the ziploc bag.
The little girl quickly backtracked and said she wanted to use the original pencil box. But it was too late.
She lost her mind! Suddenly the LOL Box she just trashed was good enough and the ziploc bag was horrible…but it’s too late for all that. I told her to get the LOL out of the trash and we would be finding a child to give it to tomorrow..one whose mommy and daddies don’t have money for any school supplies or someone who may not even have a mommy or daddy. I explained to her she’s not entitled to anything special and she is taking for granted how lucky she is… So for now she will be using a ziploc bag & will personally be delivering the nice box to a child that could benefit from it.
Maybe I over react sometimes but I would’ve done anything to have all the things she does as a child. I truly believe Changing your perception & just being grateful can turn around any situation in life.🙏🏻 #UngratefulnessDONTflyOverHere
Of course, parents chimed in with support for the way Haley handled the situation—teaching her daughter that she can’t be entitled to everything and that she needs to be grateful for what she has because other kids may not have nearly as much.
PS: This is an important lesson for many adults, too!
Then, other parents shared their own stories of “tough love” lessons. It goes to show that kids need to be challenged in order for them to change the way they think:
In the end, moms—especially single moms—need our support. There’s no one, perfect way of rearing a child, but there sure are a LOT of haters out there. Moms like Haley makes others feel less alone in her transparency, honesty, and thoughtfulness. Yay!