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Mom Argues That Her Weed Habit Is Safer Than Drinking When She’s Taking Care of Her Kid

Caitlin Fladager is a mom of two who lives in Vancouver. She had her first kid when she was 18 with her partner Noah, who she still lives with. Fladager has a large following on Instagram, where she focuses on the realities of being a stay-at-home mom. Her followers love how honest she is about the struggles of motherhood and her honesty about her mental health.

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I want to talk about the pressure of looking “presentable” at school drop off/pick up. I want to talk about how dumb it is, to feel pressured to get ready, just to look like you’re that Pinterest mom you see a lot. ⁣ When my daughter started school, well pre school, three years ago, I felt this immense pressure to look cute, or to look like the moms I saw online at school drop off. I used to get up early to do my hair, my makeup, pick out a cute outfit, that I would take off as soon as I got home from dropping her off. ⁣ ⁣ A few years later, I have no shame. ⁣ ⁣ I’ll drop them off in anything. ⁣ ⁣ I’ll carry all of their backpacks so they can play. ⁣ ⁣ I’ll show up in stained ass clothes, as long as they make it alive, in one piece, before the bell rings, is all that matters to me now. ⁣ ⁣ I spent so many months getting ready, trying to look like that presentable mom, and now I’m saying “fuck that”. ⁣ ⁣ Wear your dirty sweater proudly. Take pride in your sweatpants and your mom bun. ⁣ ⁣ Our kids only want us at drop off for a little amount of time, and before we know it, they’ll be too embarrassed by us. ⁣ ⁣ So forget about all the expectations you feel you need to meet, and join the “hot mess” moms club. It’s fun over here. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Fladager attempted suicide earlier in the year, and has been off and on different medications. In a new post that’s gone viral, she writes about how marijuana has helped her manage her anxiety and depression and also be a better mom. In the caption, she writes that she smokes weed daily even though she has two kids:

“It’s so funny to my how frowned upon marijuana is. No one looks twice when a mom says she enjoys “mom juice” aka wine, after her kids are in bed. But when a mom says she smokes weed, it’s a huge shock. ⁣⁣
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I talk about this to bring awareness. I feel as not enough people talk about this. Marijuana has helped me so much, especially when it comes to being a mom. ⁣⁣
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I have never been the most patient with my two kids. Weed makes me a better mom, as I get a good night sleep after I smoke. I wake up well rested, and with a more clear mind. ⁣⁣
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It’s okay to smoke weed after your kids go to bed. ⁣⁣
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It’s okay to smoke it to help with anxiety. Mine has been SO much better since I started smoking. ⁣⁣
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It’s okay to smoke it to gain weight. I’ve always been dangerously underweight. Now, I am at the healthiest weight I have ever been in my life. ⁣⁣
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It’s okay to smoke it, to help you get off medication. I was able to completely stop my anti depressants because smoking helped me so much. ⁣⁣
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It’s okay to smoke instead of drink. I used to have a problem with drinking, and my behaviour that came along with that. Weed has helped me to stop drinking so much, and to be honest, I much prefer smoking over drinking. ⁣⁣
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Marijuana is my glass of wine. ⁣⁣
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It’s my can of beer. ⁣⁣
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It’s my relaxation time. ⁣⁣
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You can still be a kick ass mom, and smoke weed.”

 

 

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Fladager is living in Canada, so her use of marijuana is completely legal, just like it would be if she drank a bottle of red wine before bed. Her point is that weed helps her relax in the same way, but with better effects that have helped her become a healthier person mentally and physically:

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Since I have opened up about me smoking weed, I’ve had many comments, questions, and concerns. ⁣ ⁣ I’m going to start off by saying, weed is completely legal in Canada. You can walk in to a dispensary and buy it just like alcohol. It is not legal everywhere, even though I think it should be. ⁣ ⁣ Marijuana has been my saviour for my anxiety. It has helped me not go back on anti anxiety medication again. It has helped me to be a more patient mother. ⁣ ⁣ It is my glass of wine after the kids go to sleep. ⁣ ⁣ It is bonding time with my husband, while we smoke, watch Friends, and laugh together. ⁣ ⁣ There is a lot of stereotypes about people who smoke weed. And most of them are untrue. ⁣ ⁣ My husband is the hardest working man I know, and he smokes. ⁣ ⁣ I’m a damn good mom, and I smoke. ⁣ ⁣ You would be surprised by the amount of professional people you personally know, who also smoke. ⁣ ⁣ Marijuana makes me many things. ⁣ Happy, relaxed, calm. ⁣ ⁣ But what it doesn’t make me, is a bad mom.

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But she still receives a lot of criticism, especially from people who are unfamiliar with the drug or who have a puritanical perspective on it. Luckily, she’s not shy about sharing her own perspective, which is that if you wouldn’t judge a mom having a beer when the kids are in bed, don’t judge her two puffs. Maybe even take one, if you’re that wound up.