Dating can be so difficult—you certainly didn’t need me to tell you that but I did anyway. Sometimes you go out with someone, have a marvelous time, and never hear from that person again, even if you reach out to them. Sometimes you can have a terrible time and yet the person really wants to stay in contact and, God forbid, do it again. And sometimes, in really odd circumstances, you can get a message from someone you went on a date with 6 months ago who just hasn’t let it go.
A woman named Amy Bottrill (@bottrill on Twitter) received a message from a guy she’d gone on a date with back in October who was carrying a grudge because Bottrill didn’t contact him after their date. Not that she ghosted him—he didn’t contact her, either, so it all seemed fine. But apparently, on his end, it wasn’t. Prepare for some cringe-inducing texts.
I regret to inform you that I have just been roasted to within an inch of my life by this man who bought me one meal in October 2018 and has apparently been seething ever since pic.twitter.com/5iQJdIzCGy— Amy Bottrill (@bottrill) April 15, 2019
Bottrill included screenshots of their text convo in a tweet that went viral. In the tweet, she wrote, “I regret to inform you that I have just been roasted to within an inch of my life by this man who bought me one meal in October 2018 and has apparently been seething ever since.”
In the first screengrab, you can clearly see it’s been almost six months since they lasted messaged each other. Out of completely nowhere, the dude writes, “Do you know how disrespectful it is to have someone take you out on a date, pay for everything, drop you home, then to never call or text person back.”
Bottrill responded, “Have you really been holding that grudge for nearly 6 months?” and the guy wrote, “Nope. Life is too short for grudges darling.. However, don’t let that stop any reconciling you may have beenconsidering.”
Ugh, my skin is crawling just reading that! This man is the human embodiment of the word “entitled.”
Bottrill wrote, “I don’t get what this is about but I wasn’t disrespectful in any way, if you wanted to see me again you could have said… but that didn’t happen and I assumed we both didn’t feel much chemistry so I kept it moving.”
That seems like a reasonable, clear explanation, but mister just kept on going, writing, “Youve got making up to do Amy.” Seriously??
To that statement, Bottrill responded with a decisive, “I’m good!” before the man quickly took a break and asked her how she was. Then he was back to it, writing, “Babe. Blow the dust off my number. And be nice to me. It took alot for me to reach out to you after the way you behaved so you should be making much more of an effort right now.”
Good gravy, he really thinks he’s something, doesn’t he? He expects Bottrill to be falling all over herself kissing up to him when she’s done absolutely nothing wrong and clearly they were just not right for each other.
Bottrill was open and forthright, writing, “I’m not interested.” When the guy pressed her for details about how come, she wrote, “Because we had 1 fairly awkward date and you didn’t seem to fancy me or want to see me again, now it’s nearly 6 months later and you think the way to get my interest/attention is by being hostile and entitled and calling me disrespectful? Nah I’m good thanks.”
But the guy couldn’t leave it at that, and wrote, “To be honest you came on our date dressed like you was attending a funeral, of someone you didn’t like…quite a contrast to the ways you were dressed in the sexually arousing pictures you were delighting me with prior. Then afterour date i never hear from you again.”
To be completely fair, that is one of the best descriptions of personal style I’ve ever heard. And Bottrill agreed enthusiastically, following up her initial tweet with another one reading, “‘dressed like you was attending a funeral of someone you didn’t like’ is a devastatingly accurate description of my personal style; I wore a low cut black dress that had functioning poppers all the way down and 4 inch heels.”
“dressed like you was attending a funeral of someone you didn’t like” is a devastatingly accurate description of my personal style; I wore a low cut black dress that had functioning poppers all the way down and 4 inch heels
— Amy Bottrill (@bottrill) April 15, 2019
Other people on Twitter also loved the idea of this look.
Dressing for the funeral of someone you don’t like is an entire aesthetic I didn’t know I needed to aspire to but honestly, I have a shit ton of shopping to do now.
— The Disaster Ballet (@disasterballet) April 16, 2019
Instantly thought of this. pic.twitter.com/7cdr7dl39S
— Suzy ?? (@SquidFiction) April 16, 2019
One person couldn’t help but wonder if Bottrill somehow went on a date with a Pride and Prejudice character.
no but we went to The Ivy and he wouldn’t let me order tap water because that was ‘disgusting’— Amy Bottrill (@bottrill) April 15, 2019
But mostly, people just jumped on to tear the guy to bits for his smug messages.
— Linda (@Lindalooksat) April 15, 2019
“the sexually arousing pictures you were delighting me with prior” is one of the worst things that’s ever been said in the English language, who is this monster
— Jenn (@jennduck) April 15, 2019
This make my torrid English fantasies disappear straight away.
— Rent Um Spoons (@RenitaReally) April 16, 2019
Big “pick me” energy.
— Nutshell (@NutshellGulag) April 16, 2019
LiFe iS tOo ShOrT fOr GrUdGeS pic.twitter.com/SggKTPth0B
— Mary-Jo (@brayfordbird) April 15, 2019
“Life’s too short to hold grudges” says the dude who has definitely been angry about it.
— CupofStea (@Stephen_Linton) April 15, 2019
— ?️?Kelly *you remind me of the babe* Greene (@Greeninthemiddl) April 16, 2019
How few dates has this man had since that he still remembers who he dated 6 months ago?! He should be the one dressed for a funeral…for his love life.
— Charlotte (@CharlotteyLF) April 15, 2019
My friend once went to the pub to break up wth a guy she’d been seeing for a couple of months. After she did it, his first reaction was “wow, I can’t believe you just say there and let me buy you an orange juice, knowing you were going to break up with me.” AN ORANGE JUICE.
— Beccy (@beccy_lee1) April 16, 2019
BLOW THE DUST OFF MY NUMBER I’M ASSFGJHJKL
— replyleen (@earth2eileen) April 15, 2019
Now I understand the recent articles about men having less sex.
— Keith Watabayashi (@KeithWatabayash) April 16, 2019
This guy enters the Labyrinth, and immediately becomes a Junk Person flattened by his past baggage. pic.twitter.com/KoNDVp27Rm
— Jeff Stevens (@kuratowa) April 15, 2019
Tell him if he didn’t want you dressed for a funeral he should’ve given you LIFEEEEEE
— jessie.pdf (@Jessiexthexmess) April 15, 2019
One person shared her experience with another entirely deluded man.
I once had a drunk guy follow me home and I made him pizza rolls and he passed out. He reached out a few days later asking me out and when I said I wasn’t interested he told me I was a bitch and couldn’t cook pizza rolls right. ??♀️ #winners
— Ashley Rose (@ashrose1111) April 16, 2019
And at least one woman responded to Bottrill to say that while the man’s messages were inappropriate, she still could have been nicer. Um. WHAT.
his approach is TERRIBLE but it wouldn’t have hurt to just thank him at the end of the day. He didn’t have to do any of that, there’s plenty of men who would ask you to pay if the date wasn’t going well and would just disappear from the dinner table. It’s nice to be nice.
— عائشة ? (@iAshiXo) April 15, 2019
Amy included a picture of a text thanking the man back in October…
— Amy Bottrill (@bottrill) April 15, 2019
…But also wrote that she was really angry that someone was acting like she owed this man anything at all.
this has actually pissed me off lolit’s truly wild that woman to woman you’re telling me to be “nice” and “thank” this bonkers man I owe nothing to? do we know each other??? I’m ………
— Amy Bottrill (@bottrill) April 15, 2019
And one 55-year-old guy did step in to say (not that she needed his approval) that Bottrill had done exactly nothing wrong.
As a 55yr old male, I can confidently say, “You owe him nothing Amy!” Nor for that matter do you owe any would be suitor anything in return for the cost of a date or a gift. Obviously he thought, by giving he should receive!Men like that have no respect for you.
— John (@GranpappaJohn) April 15, 2019
So remember, people: if someone you went on one date with half a year ago contacts you to say they’re mad about how the date went, they are definitely Not Holding A Grudge, because life is too short for that.
h/t: Twitter: @bottrill