Women know how scary it can be to reject a guy’s advances. Some are polite about it, some are rude, and some are actually dangerous. They all kind of seem the same until the big reveal, so you never know what kind of guy you’re talking to until it’s too late. That’s why being approached by a stranger can make women so uncomfortable, even if he ultimately has no malicious intentions. This is a story about someone who definitely did.
A Twitter user with the handle @Leslyjenniferr shared some photos of herself, saying she was assaulted after a man near her bus stop asked her for her number. The pictures show a bruised face, split lip, scratches along her temple and her hands.
I was doubting whether to upload these pictures or not, but then I start to think if what happened to me could help prevent it happening to someone else, then I was gonna share it.— Lesliee (@Leslyjenniferr) August 25, 2019
This Friday afternoon, I was walking to church from my bus stop when suddenly a guy passing by in pic.twitter.com/3XOWKZNHns
She says the man stopped his truck and asked for her number. She refused him a number of times, he exited the feel and “basically kidnapped” her, taking her to a nearby bridge. I think that qualifies as actual kidnapping.
She says that once they were there he tried to sexually assault her, but she was wearing what she describes as “anti-rape” leggings. They’re apparently leggings that are very difficult to remove without the wearer’s co-operation. Her attacker became frustrated and beat her.
my clothes and failing thanks to some "anti-rape leggings" I always wear, he got desperate and began to beat and kick me. I never in a million years ever thought I would have gone through what I did and am greatful that I was able to get away. But I think of so many girls that— Lesliee (@Leslyjenniferr) August 25, 2019
weren't as lucky to get away or even make it out alive. God is so good, and I will never get tired of saying so, I'm so greatful to have been found and for all of my friends and family that went to the hospital to make sure I was okay. Girls, please be careful, use what happened— Lesliee (@Leslyjenniferr) August 25, 2019
to me as an example to always carry some type of protection, from pepper spray to a taser. Never walk alone even if there’s daylight.
— Lesliee (@Leslyjenniferr) August 25, 2019
She managed to escape, though she doesn’t say if she broke away or if he let her go. She chose to share the pictures as a warning to other women in the area and everywhere to carry pepper spray and walk accompanied. The attack happened in El Paso, Texas, near a local high school.
In El Paso Tx. On the lower valley close to Riverside High School— Lesliee (@Leslyjenniferr) August 26, 2019
Obviously, @Leslyjenniferr’s claims that she was wearing leggings that can prevent rape invited a lot of questions. She says she bought them on Amazon long ago and was unable to find the link. A few commenters responded that they’d heard of the leggings as well and shared links to similar wear for anyone who was interested. She also tweeted something like what she was wearing:
I couldn't find the exact ones I had since they were given to me a couple of years ago, but this is the closest thing I got, hope it helps https://t.co/KXw0SFoajv— Lesliee (@Leslyjenniferr) August 26, 2019
The reality is that there’s no perfect strategy for avoiding assault, nor is it the responsibility of anyone to lock up their body so no one can touch it. Reading this woman’s experience, you can see how her life was in danger because of someone’s choice to harm her and things could have gone differently in a variety of ways. If anything, this is a story about why women are hesitant to engage with men they don’t know—instead of giving them a hard time, leave them alone. They might also be carrying pepper spray.